Bereavement
If a child suffers bereavement this will be a transition that only they will understand, they will have to cope with emotional changes, they may become very shy and quiet, they may not want to talk yet at the same time still feel included, if mum has passed on they could revert back to becoming daddy’s girl /mummy’s boy , the child will need to be listen to so that when they are ready to talk will know someone will listen, they should be treated like any normal child not abnormal even though something horrible has happened.
Divorce
If a child parents separate or divorce this will be a huge transition for the child they will feel they are being torn apart, being a go between mum and dad, they would have to grow up that much faster, the son will take on the role of being the man about the house if dad has left and vice versa for the girl if mum left, they could become sad and lonely always thinking it could be there fault, this could affect their friendships at school and they can become withdrawn, they will always have to pick sides, and this could lead to the child not feeling wanted and not completely sure who to trust.
Violence
If a child has the misfortune to witness violence towards their mother that transition will be one of many that they have to cope with. The need to move them as far away as possible, leaving behind friend’s toys, and family will have the biggest effect on a child. For child A it did, she blamed mum for everything , once a sweet seven year old, turned in the ugliest child imaginable, she started to steal ,swear, kick punch and all at her mum, she could not get the fact that had her mum not done what she did, the repercussions could have been really dangerous. She had so much hatred so much so she was not allowed to go to school, because of fear of what she would to other children, she was home schooled for six months as well as seeing a councillor she was slowly coming to terms with new life, but it is always about her, she refuses to share anything she always has to be first, she has very low self esteem, she trusts no one.
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